I’m so fucking annoyed by people saying it’s ‘transphobic’ to not want to date a trans person. It’s not discrimination to not include people who were born male into your dating people if you’re a lesbian!

How is this in any way hurting trans people? I’m sure there are a lot of people who can look past this and have a fulfilling relationship or just sex with a transgender individual, but people who don’t aren’t bigots! Yet there are so many people spewing this fucking creepy rhetoric on the internet and even in real life that maybe you shouldn’t reject someone based on some ‘arbitrary’ characteristic but rather get to know them as a person and maybe realise that they are actually such a great man/woman/something else. No it’s not fucking arbitrary! I just can’t! If you’re biologically male and still have secondary sex characteristics of a man we will never have a deep emotional or sexual connection because this is my sexuality for fuck’s sake. Why is it so easy for some (I bet most trans people don’t actually give a fuck about this topic and people who aren’t even trans decided to speak up about this on their behalf.) so called trans advocates to understand every supposedly valid gender identity but not that homo- and heterosexuality is based on biological sex??

And yes, you are guilt tripping people into dating trans persons. I had a girl say to me that of course she’s not expecting me to be pansexual or something but that maybe people have preconceived notions ingrained into them by society that they don’t give someone a chance who could turn out to be a great person in the end. Of course they can be a great person but I’m not going to be attracted to a biologically male person no matter how great and attractive and whatever they are. There aren’t any preconceived notions it’s my sexuality and I can’t change it! I thought everybody had accepted that homosexuality is not a choice! If some young gay man or lesbian would have heard that who didn’t know much about homosexuality, perhaps they would have been convinced and would feel bad about the fact that they aren’t attracted to trans men/women and subsequently could be coerced into dating one which wouldn’t be beneficial for either side except if the trans side gets off on people not actually feeling comfortable with seeing their naked body.

And don’t tell me that I can’t say trans women are biologically male because sex isn’t binary anyway or something like that. You can categorise humans into those who are able to produce the eggs, females, and those who are able to produce the sperm. You need two of them to produce another human. Sex is binary in humans. Yes, there are exceptions like intersex people, but they don’t invalidate the rule! There will always be exceptions, do we stop saying “tigers have orange and black stripes’ because a tiny minority of tigers have a genetic defect and suffer from albinism? But actually, yes, if someone wants to refute what I said and thinks it’s incorrect, please give your explanation in the comments. I have never been given a coherent explanation as to why there should be more than two sexes because I’ve been immediately banned from LGBT subreddits or shamed for asking a question about that. (I asked how there are more than two sexes, I didn’t say trans people shouldn’t have the same rights as cis people have or something hateful like that.) And banning me made more more convinced by my opinion that there are actually only two sexes.

So I guess I changed the topic midway but I wanted to get off my mind how fucking rapey it is to guilt trip people into dating people if they don’t want to.