“Just my two cents worth, but in this day and age where so many women (escpecially the hot ones on their 20’s and 30’s) are bi-sexual, which means they enjoy sex with someone without a male sexual appendage involved in any way, or at most a rudimentary plastic or silicon version of one simply strapped on. (I don’t see how it is nearly as enjoyable for the female wearing the strap-on, or as fulfilling for the female giving oral to what amounts to a non-sensory prosthetic, providing no wonderful sensations that the male real-deal provides. I can only surmise that women are more visually stimulated by the sex acts then all of the published works on the subject seem to indicate – then again, the modern bi-sexual woman seems to be a different breed with a higher than average sex drive and much higher kink factor than the average female.) In retrospect, this might explain why I have dated mostly significantly younger and bi-sexual women since my divorce due to their elevated sex drive and kink, with the added benefit that they are usually down for a FFM threesomes on the reg. But I digress, I dated a bi-sexual girl twenty years my junior for awhile, but eventually we mutually ended the relationship. I had known her for several years prior to our dating and we are still friends, which is why I know the next guy she got into a relationship was, although he was a big guy (played football in high school and college), she said his fully erect penis was about the size of my thumb. She said that after being with me (god was good to me in that department) that she could not even feel him inside her. HOWEVER, he eveidentally was extremely gifted with his fingers and tongue, to the point where they almost never had intercourse. So it really depends on the secuality of your female partner, she may be the type that craves the male sexual organ, or she may be the type that just wants to orgasm during sex and doesn’t care how her male partner makes that happen, as long as he is sufficently skilled at doing so. I hope this provided some context to the comment above that “Even without the best tools you can still be a HANDyman”, and the title of the post “So you’re telling me there’s hope”. Peace / Lover everyone. I’m outie….”