Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
So my (31M) boyfriend (19M) and I have been dating for about a year, and have been living together for 6 months. I don’t want to get into too much detail, but we do have a fairly active sex life, but I usually let him take the wheel. For his birthday, I had the idea to buy a remote control butt plug, that connects to an app that I can control from my phone. I thought it would spice things up, and help for when I’m away on work trips. We are both high ranked chess players, but neither of us have come out publicly, about our sexualities or relationship. We thought it would cause too much backlash, and prevent us from playing against one another, which we do enjoy.
So now to the part where things went wrong. The morning of our big tournament where we were going to possibly play against each other (if we won in the lower brackets), I noticed his bedside table drawer was open, and it was mostly empty, butt plug included. I didn’t think much of it at the time, since I figured he might have taken it out to clean it or something. Since arriving together at events would draw suspicion, I left earlier in the morning after making breakfast and played my matches. When we were about to play, i noticed his coach kept looking at his phone, and exchanging hushed whispers with him. It made me a bit uneasy, but since I’m known for playing well, i got ready as usual and sat down. A couple rounds in, I noticed beads of sweat on his forehead, and he kept looking at me weird. That’s when i noticed the faint rumbling coming from his side of the table. I immediately connected the dots and honestly, in the moment, i thought it was hot. After a few minutes of playing and wondering what to do, I resigned. Twitter, news outlets, all blew up moments after. When he got home afterwards, I talked it out with him and we both agreed not to pull this kind of stunt again. But now everyone is hounding me for info. AITA?