There is so much talk now about the privileges of being a man. I have read and heard some describe it as having won the lottery to be born male. When compared to the life of a liberated woman today in U.S. society, being an average, liberal, equality minded man really SUCKS. When I hear people suggest that I won some sort of lottery for being born male and how crazy i am for wanting to be a woman, it makes me want to scream. If I had the choice, I would never have been born a man. I would happily trade in my average male privileges for the privileges women take for granted in a heartbeat. I feel like being born male was a curse that can only be lifted by hormone therapy to become a woman.

To be a man today is to be charged with oppressing the world and found guilty by association with a Y chromosome. The sentence handed down by society is a lifetime of guilt trips and blame from everyone for everything. Men are expected to apologize, atone, deprecate and despise ourselves for existing.Men are taught to look down upon their sex much as women were in the past. Men are increasingly presented as existentially inferior. Treated almost as if males were born with a mental illness or disease. Studies involving what it is to be male read like pathology reports. Being a man is seemingly a condition that needs to be cured.

Meanwhile, women are presented as smarter, more evolved, busier, fairer and overcoming everything that all of us “privileged” men are doing to them. Men are constantly portrayed as dumb, clueless, lazy, oafish, helpless morons. Anything men accomplish is supposedly the result of being privileged, or having a better woman behind us.

The popular narrative of men as privileged, guilty and stupid really saddens and infuriates me. It promotes a callous, unsympathetic, and judgmental attitude toward males. There is such a huge empathy gap, and so little compassion for the pain men endure. A woman facing difficult challenges in life is given sympathy, and there are likely programs and support groups available to her. A man’s pain and suffering is almost always treated as something deserved and self inflicted. Especially if that pain and suffering involves a woman.

In the rare instances that a man actually opens up and expresses his pain, anger and bitterness, the responses from both men and women are rarely supportive (unless the man is railing against other men). Instead, the focus is usually upon figuring out where the broken man went wrong, and telling him that he has only himself to blame. Women and privilege checkers immediately go on the defensive and tell you that everyone else has it so much worse. It is just another way of telling men to man up and shut up. People need to stop equating the discussion of men’s pain and frustration with denying the oppression of women and their issues.

The extent of society’s contempt for men is highlighted by the taboo subject of skyrocketing male suicide rates. Recently I have even read articles presenting male suicide as “a weapon that men use upon women”. Men are now thought to be so disposable, and of such little value that the epidemic of male suicide is being looked at as another way in which misogynistic men oppress women. If being a man is so wonderful then why has male suicide skyrocketed? Well lets look at some more male “privileges” that nobody really likes to talk about:

In addition to being born guilty, and supposedly inferior to women, another privilege of being born male is to have your sexuality and passions treated as dangerous and predatory. Men are now subject to the sexual equivalent of racial profiling. Even the most peaceful feminist man is treated as a potential rapist. Men must endure demeaning slogans like “teach men not to rape”. In this way (and others), males are presented as dangerous instinctual animals that must be trained, rather than human beings that possess emotions, feelings and a conscience. Today women are taught to go through life in a paranoid, androphobic state, assuming the worst of any man due to the atrocious actions of some (e.g., #yesallwomen).

Fatherhood. I think I could have ended that paragraph there but I will elaborate. Fathers are considered to be trivial, a nicety, and unessential. When compared to motherhood, fatherhood is a really crappy consolidation prize. And when it comes to reproductive choice, men have few choices. The only choices men have is abstinence, risky, pleasure killing condoms, or having a surgical knife taken to one’s genitals. Some choice.

Now I have to vent about the value society places upon a man’s life in general. A man’s only value in our society is based upon what he can provide. Men are only valued as wealth producing assets. That is it. If you are not interested in getting ahead in business or politics and being a provider then you have no value. Unlike women, men are not valued for their emotions, sensuality, beauty, compassion or empathy. In fact, society often questions whether men are even capable of any of those things. Oh, I did forget that men are valued for dying. Dying on the job, dying on the battlefield, dying in heroic defense of women, etc. Men have always been treated as disposable assets. Their lives are not considered to be worth much.

Another not so great privilege of being a man is the expectation of being the pursuer, the performer. The pain of too much rejection is a burden that many men know too well. Every woman I have ever known complains about always being desired and hit on by men. I can understand some of the frustration, but consider the alternative. I would much rather have to endure constant attention and pursuit than to be ignored as most men are. I often hear women complaining about not having sex for a couple of weeks. Most men I know wish they had sex that often. I hear most men complaining about not having sex for many months (sometimes even years). So on the subject of always having to endure being desired, I think women should count their blessings in this regard.

There are many more issues that I could add here, but I don’t have the time. Overall I hate being a man in this society. Women don’t care or have any empathy for the male plight. Hell, they don’t even recognize that they face any challenges or pain. They don’t give a damn about male suicide, the lack of men on college campuses, male disposability, how little fathers are valued, and everything else I talked about above. Women don’t truly care about men, beyond caring about what they can provide or do for them. I wouldn’t wish being a white male on even my worst enemy. This is why i made the conscious decision last year to become a woman. Do yourself a favor and do the same if you were born a white male.That’s the only way for you to ever have a chance at having the normal and happy life you were meant to have. Males in the United States are oppressed as soon as they are born. There’s all these complaints about sexualisation of full grown women, even those who choose to let it happen. But people don’t seem to have a problem with forcing a genital alteration procedure upon an infant. Guys have no bodily autonomy, and their sexual preferences don’t have time to develop before females and males alike enforce their own sexual preferences. I am highly pissed off that I have no foreskin, because someone thought it might protect me later in life. I prefer it for aesthetics, and it really does offer a better sexual experience for those who like sex. No one should be allowed to have sexual preferences that infringe upon another’s natural rights. But here it is, happening to males. The most senseless oppression the male side will have to face.