Sometimes I wonder if the actual reason [r/196](https://www.reddit.com/r/196/) users are obsessed with femboys is because they never received adequate affection from their parents and had few friends growing up, so they tried to find happiness by chasing after their idealistic view of a girlfriend seeing that as to them that was the only obvious key to feeling happy. Then as a result of them only ever feeling as if they could experience affection through someone else’s femininity they develop an unhealthy view of femininity as the only potential source of validation for themselves. So, as a result of this, they imagine that by becoming a femboy they will feel closer to the only source of the affection they think can receive. The obsession with femboys is actually a projection of their desire to be more feminine as they associate that with “goodness”. Femboys as a concept may represent an idealized version of themselves.