That’s messed up. It makes me sad how many men seem to be rapey pigs. 🙁

This probably isn’t helping but as someone who loves women, and happens to absolutely adore their asses… caressing them, kissing them, eating them, penetrating them… reading your post makes me want to get to know you, fall in love and lust with you, find out if there’s any potential for mutual attraction in the sweetest, most considerate way imaginable, and subsequently respect your decision to oblivion either way. No stalkey, rapey or obsessive behavior in case of being turned down. No whining. No childish “you smell like the inside of a crab fishing boat’s container at the end of a 120° day, so I wasn’t that interested anyway” type of parting shot. All that just because classy behavior might feel a tad more meaningful coming from an ass fan who’s – in this hypothetical – genuinely infatuated by you. You also make me want to beat up anyone who acts inappropriately towards you and make them apologize while meaning it.

Deep down I still think acting gracefully is the norm even for men and you just had awful luck. But I’m honestly not sure anymore. I’ll let people who are much better at it give you that pep talk.