Recognize where their interests overlap and where they differ and look at them objectively. You will realize they are just like you in their own way – a self-interested being.

You want to have sex with someone you find attractive. They want to have sex with someone they find attractive. Just not with you. Be the person they want to have sex with. Don’t bitch that they won’t fuck you. You’re not good enough.

You want to do what you like (games, outdoors, etc). They want to do what they like; which may overlap or may not. It’s not their fault if they don’t like what you like. It’s not like you want to change your interests either. Find someone whose interests overlap a lot and then compromise on the rest.

Closely related to rule 1, they want to settle down. They do. Just like you. But with the best person they can. So do you. You think they are the best person for you. They don’t. They think you are a loser and they could do better. They’re probably right. Stop being a loser.

You think they just want money. Maybe they do. Or maybe they just want security. The same way you want a hot girl. Her currency is her looks. Yours is your money. Neither desire is any more or less valid than the other. You’re both shallow fucks. Just accept it and move on. Don’t pretend you’re some higher level being because you’re ok with a trailer and t shirt and jeans. You aren’t ok with a fat girl who looks like a pug so get the fuck off your high horse.

Don’t argue for the sake of arguing. Maybe it gets you excited to argue. You get off on burning someone on Reddit or “winning” an argument with your girl. You feel energized and smart when you do it. Guess what? All that energy you feel was sucked directly from the person you argued with. You’re happy and she’s pissed. What did you really win? Someone who doesn’t want to be around you. Congrats. You’re alone.

There is more, but this will get you started. Good luck anon. You have a far journey to take and few tools to get there. Take solace in the fact that if you fail, your line ends with you and all of this sorrow and despair disappears with you.