There was a church event at our church yesterday, and there was a lot of beer, champaigne, and wine. My son (22M) had a little too much to drink, and at this event, members of the church could go up to the pulpit and talk My son drunkenly admitted to an affair he had with a 40 year old married woman. The affair ended a week ago, but he went into details about them having sex a lot and them doing it on her bed at her house. He said that he “did her raw in the ass until his dick was shit covered and then rimmed her clean in 69 while she sucked him clean” and that “she begged him to let her choke him unconscious so that she could sex him back to conciseness.” He said that “she sucked me like she was trying to get the juice out of a jiggler and it made me buss all up in her hair.” Me (50F), my husband (53F), and my daughter (21F) all looked so shocked, and people at the church were giving us “the look.” It was so embarrassing. He then got off the pulpit and went back to drinking. We took him home, and he fell asleep in his room, and he woke up around 4:00 PM.

He didn’t remember what happened. Me and my husband told him what he said. We demanded to know if the affair was true and what was going on, and he said, “Yes, it’s true, but it’s none of your business.” He then went back into his room. He has come home drunk before, and one time I went into his room to wake him up, and he fell asleep with a half bottle of whiskey next to him. I know you are probably thinking he’s an alcholic, but he isn’t; he hasn’t drank that much, and he has gone months without drinking. That’s fine; it’s just that he parties a lot. The people at my church are gossiping about us I heard the women (67F, 56F, 72F, and 36F) from my Bible study talking about how I’m a bad mother for not only allowing my son to drink but also not knowing a lot about my son’s life. They think I should have known about the affair and not allowed him to do it. What should I do?