Hi everyone,
I [Female 20] have a serious problem with my boyfriend [Male 25] and really need advice. We have a healthy relationship. We understand each other very well and have always been there for each other. We’ve had disagreements and arguments before but they’d get solved quickly. Recently, I said something that I really regret and it’s impacted our relationship heaps.

A couple nights ago, we were on the topic of exes. He happened to ask about my ex’s size. I didn’t answer the question and said “he doesn’t need to know.” From this he assumed that my ex had a bigger penis and told me he already knows the answer. And it is true that my ex had a bigger penis, I couldn’t lie to my boyfriend.

This absolutely shattered my boyfriend. I feel awful that I’ve upset him so much. He said that it will take him weeks/ months to get over it. He has told me that this isn’t my fault and that it is his insecurity that he needs to work on. But he also said he is struggling to find a solution that won’t jeopardise our relationship and is losing that eagerness to have sex with me.

My boyfriend knows that I didn’t enjoy sex with my ex and never orgasmed with him. Whereas, with him I have multiple orgasms almost every time. But he believes that “bigger is better”.

I’ve never loved anyone as much as I love him and never enjoyed sex before him. He means so much to me and I’m scared of losing him. How do I make him feel better and save our relationship? I don’t want us to end our relationship because of this.