I (32F) have recently moved in with my partner (43M) of two years very recently. We met during COVID and he’s been very hesitant to allow me to move in as he’s very religious and he’s worried about how his family and friends will view him. As far as they’re aware, he’s a virgin and he’s saving himself for marriage, so having a female partner living with him is a big deal for these people who seem to love to pry into other’s lives.

Anyway, I’m getting distracted and venting (sorry!). To the real issue at hand, we’d never really spent more than a night together before I moved in, so some habits of his I wasn’t aware of until we shared a roof. He’s a lot messier than I am, but with some guidance I think we can work that one out. He mutters to himself a lot, but he passes that off as praying to god. That’s just a couple of habits of his I’ve noticed since moving in.

One thing he does is he says grace not only before meals, but before any food he eats. He thanks the lord and all that, which I guess I’m okay with. I’m not religious at all, but I’ve always been of the mindset that people should be able to practice their religion as long as it doesn’t effect others. It does kind of embarrass me when we’re out for dinner or with other people and he makes a show of praying to and thanking god for his food, so I’ve taken to avoiding meals with other people.

Okay, so the really weird thing he does, is that I’ve heard him essentially saying grace when he’s in the bathroom, just before flushing. Our walls are thin and you can hear a lot through the closed bathroom door, and his style of saying grace is very distinctive. I know I shouldn’t eavesdrop but I have now on occasion and what sounds like him saying grace is essentially him thanking god for the food’s safe passage through his body and holding a sort of funeral for his turds, bidding then well on their journey and delivering them into the hand’s of God. He always signs off with “until we meet again” which I find an insane concept to say to one’s own poo.

I can deal with his religious tendencies and whatever, but the idea of him kneeled down over a full toilet praying to his shit is on another level and it’s making me have negative thoughts towards our relationship. I don’t even know how I can bring this up with him – it just makes me want to bail.

Any advice would be great. Am I actually just meant to just ask him why he prays to his poo? Is this a regular thing that religious people do? Like, grace when food goes in and grace when food comes out?