Not sure if this is the right place for this but I gotta rant right now… Does anyone else hate how limiting language is sometimes??
Like take pregnancy – Women “get impregnated” but there’s no word for “men give up their seed”? What a load of bull! Pregnancy can be a powerful act!
People that I’ve talked to come up with every kind of excuse to deny this fact. They say “pregnant women are too weak and can’t do anything” – well the Queen shouldn’t have to work!
They say “A man can conquer many wombs but a woman can only have one baby at a time” – yeah? And a woman can have a harem of boys and pick only the best to breed.
And even if a word is gender-neutral, it still gives different implications depending on which gender you’re talking about. Take “fuck” – when a woman “fucks”, she is thought of as “giving up her body” – but when a man “fucks”, he is thought of as “conquering”. Nothing has to be said, it’s just how people interpret those sentences.
This is just the obvious stuff, but there’s so many more subtle ways that language implies women’s submission no matter how you word it. It makes it so hard to talk about the kinds of things I’m attracted to in a woman without directly going into kink territory and explicitly saying “I like to be submissive to women”. .
But I don’t just want to be “dominated”, “conquered”, and
“pursued”… I want to be looked at, to be beautiful and objectified! I
want to be part of a harem of beautiful boys! I want to be adored and
protected like a valuable jewel! I want to be patronised for my
“silly little male brain, can’t even think for himself”!
It’s so hard to explain these in ways that makes sense. Whenever I’ve
talked to people about it (even kinky people, even people who’ve done
gender studies!) I can see in their eyes and how they respond that
they’re trying to re-interpret my words so that it seems like I’m
the dominant one.
If I do hyper-kinky and say “I wanna be spanked”, they imagine me hiring
a prostitute to do it, which is still a “dominant” act as I’m paying
someone to entertain me (I hope this isn’t offensive to sex workers
y’all do good work!)
If I go hyper-softboi and say “I wanna be the little spoon”, they
imagine that I’m just trying to manipulate women into bed.
Language is stupid. People’s brains are stupid. I need a hug.