is heterosexuality preventing men and women to have fulfilling friendships with the opposite sex ?

What I’ve noticed abt the straights is that they always think of the opposite sex in romantix/sexual terms and always in pair. For many of them it’s inconceivable to just stay single. Whenever we would discuss “female separatism” amongst women, hetero women would always be like “So we should become lesbians ?”. Same for hetero men, tehy really believe taht women who don’t like men
as a group magically *become* lesbians. But then love to claim that them being heterosexual **ISN’T** a choice. So what is it? You can’t claim that sexuality isn’t a choice and then on the next breath, assert that every woman who goes her own way *has suddenly become* a lesbian.

Moreover, a lot of het women complain that men can only conceive of them in romantic/sexual terms and project their own wants and desires onto women leading to unrealistic beauty standards. But imo, women do the same with men. Women too project a lot of their desires onto men and want them to be a certain way. I don’t get the impression that every man that I meet wants to have sex with me. like. at all. And yet I heard women claim that biOLoGY is the reason men objectify women and want to have sex with as many women as possible, and all that bullshit. Even tho women claim to hate the fact that *men are driven by p\*ssy and think abt sex all the time*, a lot of women deep down would rather a man be dominant and assertive and hypersexual than overly sensitive or considerate. I think this is best demonstrated by Joan Morgan’s quote (who’s also a feminist btw):
*Is it foul to say that imagining a world where you could paint your big brown lips in the most decadent shades, pile your fat a\*s into your fave micromini, slip your freshly manicured toes into four-inch f— me sandals and have not one single solitary man objectify, I mean roam his eyes longignly over all the intended places – is like a total drag for you?*
*Am I no longer down for the cause if I admit that, while total gender equality is an interesting concept on paper, it doesn’t do a damn thing for me erotically. That truth be told, men with too many “feminist sensibilities” have never made my panties wet. At least not like that reformed thug n\*gga who can make the most chauvinistic of ‘wassup babe’ sound like a sweet wet tongue darting in and out of your ear. And how come no one ever admits that part of the reason women love hip-hop, as misogynist as it is, is ‘cuz all that in-yo-face testosterone makes our nipples hard.*


A lot of women like being looked at as an object even tho they won’t admit. That’s why many women don’t find anything wrong with catcalling, so long as it’s not in-your-face sexism and their safety isn’t threatened, they like that kind of sexual attention. They need that validation to feel *womanly*.
Heterosexuality isn’t just a sexuality it’s also a lifestyle. That’s why the straights call homosexuality a *lifestyle*, it’s a projection. Heterosexuality as a way of life dictates certain behaviours like the fact that men should be the pursuer, should be assertive, and dominant.
Men have straight up claimed that women don’t make good friends for them because they don’t share the same interests and one cited heterosexuality as a reason for why he couldn’t be friends with women too. Imo, it’s totally possible for 2 ppl of the opposite sex to be friends, if they let go of gender expectations and see the other gender for each individual person instead of focusing on their gender and whether or not they can get laid with them.